Why Are We Thinking Negative Thoughts? Continuation…Answers

amanda — Sun, 09 Dec 2007 23:00:04 +0000

Thank you all for the wonderful comments you posted. I will try to answer some of them here.

Lori, your story is very touching. People will always ridicule and criticize something they don’t understand, something that does not fit into the model formed by society, if we are in any way different from that model. At the end of the day, it is not what other people think. It is what we think. It is hard to do that when we are children surrounded by negativism. As I pointed that out before 97% of people are negative, but it does not mean that we have to be one of them.
One plastic surgeon did research on women who had deformity in their faces. After successful operations, when the women were really pretty, many of them still hid their faces as they still saw themselves as being ‘ugly”. Why is that? The real beauty comes from inside. You have to see yourself pretty first before anyone can see your beauty. Changing outside without changes inside is not going to do the trick. We are like the snow flakes. You will never find another one like you and I or anyone else. We have so much to offer to the world. We have so much potential. It does not matter what our physical appearances are.
I walk with a cane, Lori. Incurable disease of my nervous system. Am I normal? For me, the question rather is, would I like to be “normal”? My answer to it is NO. For me “normal” is a person that lives with all the limitations put by our society. No, I don’t want to be “normal”. I helped so many people to change their lives and I will keep doing this for the rest of my life. I don’t want anyone to be “normal”. Who is “normal”? To me a “normal” person is an average person who goes to work with a job which he or she often does not like, lives from a paycheck to paycheck or have little savings, have 2.3 children, and have a chance of getting divorce around 40%. I want every person to feel special, unique, because they are. I want every person, to be really happy and successful with a job or career they love, and experiencing a true love. Is that possible? Yes, absolutely.
Please, read Bill’s comment on Today’s World Blog I posted in November about negativity. See how he has found his way out of negativity. Thank you for your comment Bill.

What is your view on the great question Lori posed. What is “normal”? Who is “normal’?
Write me your comments, your ideas.
I am looking forward to your thoughts.
Amanda Devine
www.totallyuniqueideas.com

Why Are We Thinking Negative Thoughts? Continuation…

amanda — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 14:36:50 +0000

Reply to the comment: It is great to hear from people who want to move ahead, want to achieve something in life and want to help others. It is a great purpose to have. Good for you Sandy! Discussion: Sometimes we want all the great things in our lives and still we catch ourselves having negative thoughts of fear that it might not happen, that we are aiming too high, having doubts in our abilities. Why does that happens? We have been programmed that way. Through our lives we have been surrounded by negative people and they are the ones that programmed our thinking, our behavior. It does not mean that those people like your parents and family did not love you. They did, very much. But they were programmed the same way. They wanted the best for you, but they could not give you what they did not have. You and your loved ones and the other people that were and are a part of your life were taught to look at their present situation, look at their past situation and make decisions about their future based on that. For most people that brings lots of negative thoughts, emotions and doubts about themselves.

I always thought I was a positive person. I was wishing positive and yet I was filled with the negative thoughts I described above. My friend and I could talk for hours. But when I start to study the human mind and I stopped complaining, stopped criticizing and stopped gossiping I had nothing to talk about with my friend. Was I a positive person then? If someone asked me that question at that time in my life, I would say yes. But was I? I don’t think so.

Why news reports mainly negative information?

Write me your comments, your ideas.

I am looking forward to your thoughts.

Amanda Devine